It is important to realize that when a child is taken from their biological parents and placed into foster care, they are faced with a wave of different emotions. According to C. Craft in his article, Understanding Grief and Loss in Children, Kubler Ross's well-known stages of grief are described as denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.” Children placed in foster care experience many of the five stages of grief. For a child, loss can mean more than just taking away from the family. For a child, losses are everything that is important to the child, such as his pets, home, school, friends and possessions. As adults, we may not realize and overlook the little things in a child's life as a loss. While there is no one way to help a child grieve, it is important for adoptive parents to have different tools to help the child during the grieving process. (Crafts, 2016). Despite the fact that grief is usually associated with death, research shows that children who are placed into homes through adoption or foster care experience enormous amounts of grief and loss. Pain is a thing according to Kilman, G. (1996). The personal life story book: A psychoanalytically based intervention for children in foster care [Abstract]. He tested this claim by developing the Personal Life History Book method to support self-directed expression of memories, feelings, dreams, and to verbally respond to his emotions representing traumatic events. It is important to allow your child to work on sections of the book that he or she selects rather than asking him or her to focus on sections that he or she is not ready to work on. This protects the child from facing certain emotions that he is not ready to face. The foster child creates a simple scrapbook with the help of the child's biological parents and the foster family case