Loving others does not mean forgetting ourselves. When I say we should be compassionate, this does not mean helping others at the expense of ourselves. At all. I sometimes say that Buddhas and bodhisattvas are the most selfish of all. Why? Because by cultivating altruism they reach ultimate happiness... The selfishness of buddhas and bodhisattvas is functional and efficient. It allows them to not only achieve awakening, but also the ability to help others. It's really worth it. To me, this shows that to create maximum happiness for yourself, you need to develop yourself