It takes practice, conditioning, and a lot of patience; lots and lots of patience. First, you need to realize that you are two different people involved in a joint partnership. Secondly, each of you has needs, wants and desires. Let's start by going back to childhood. Children are taught from an early age to express what they need or want, even before they can speak. As children they cried when they were hungry, tired or needed a change. That was their form of communication, even though it wasn't a very efficient form, it was effective at their age. Furthermore, for the parent, it was a constant guessing game. Just like children, this form of communication can also be compared to adults who do not communicate effectively with their partners; it can also be a guess