We value privacy and are expected to keep secrets within the family. I am considered the black sheep because I reported the abuse that occurs in our family. As children, we were given many playdates with our cousins, but we didn't have many opportunities to socialize with people outside the family, except at school. My parents spent evenings playing cards with extended family, but made no effort to make friends outside of the family. They did not like to show affection or love and believed in traditional family roles, with strict rules. We didn't receive much encouragement or praise and were expected to live up to our parents' exact expectations. For example, because I didn't go to college when I was 18, my family can't forgive me and refuses to tell me they're proud of my accomplishments now. They made comments like "you should have gone to school years ago" instead of saying they were proud of me when I told them I had received the Honor of Principal