The search for love is encouraged by three secret desires: the desire for fusion, validation and vitality. So love goes through the stages of romance, of adaptation where reality and illusion collide, then of lasting and mature love. The capacity to love must exist for commitment, which is the decision to marry, otherwise selfless feelings and acts of love of those who enter into an exclusive relationship with another person will follow. Men love women who give up the prince and find the man, accept him and don't just understand him. Women must understand men's drive for autonomy, they must be courageous, win, play and be a hero. When men are faced with the fear of inadequacy, they want women who maintain confidence in them to be given a huge boost. Trusting a man who loves your strength creates a bond between him and the woman who guides and inspires him. Men have vivid memories of times when they didn't have many restrictions and expectations, and they want to relive the feeling of disinhibition. For this reason, men are attracted to women who can stimulate and release these youthful emotions within them. These women attract men like magnets. While