However Millie found this difficult and did not accept her husband being a woman as this would not only change her concept of how she views Joss, but also how she views herself socially because she was lied to and manipulated into believing that he is a biological male. From this revelation Millie was obviously shocked and confused: “I remember feeling stupid and then angry. I remember the terrible shock of it all; however, even after he told me, I still couldn't believe it” (p.35). This would be a shock to anyone, as you would feel as if your life had been a lie and change your entire concept of where you fit in society. The harsh reality for her is that, as Davies states, “If Millie accepts that Joss was not a man – that his masculinity was nothing more than a costume – then she changes her definition of herself, from wife to lesbian.” Furthermore, Millie wants to stay true and faithful to the relationship she was in and defends her relationship. Probably, she does this to capture any remaining dignity she has towards her relationship, and also because Millie still respects Joss anyway. Millie also seems afraid to admit the truth because she doesn't want to be seen as abnormal