Conflicts that lead to unresolved issues can affect the quality of the marriage. Although much research has been carried out on marital relationships, the factors that influence the onset of ongoing conflicts are still unclear. Unresolved issues are problems that are continually brought up in a marriage. However, marital conflicts are not the only source of unresolved problems in a relationship. Unresolved conflicts within marriage can affect the longevity and quality of the marriage, but personal background and individual trauma contribute to marital problems more often than conflicts within marriage. In fact, marital conflicts usually arise due to unresolved personal issues. If a person develops a behavioral property due to environmental factors before marriage, or even during marriage, that person may jeopardize marital satisfaction and longevity. A study by Carnstensen, Gottman, and Levenson (1995) aimed to explore emotional behaviors in long-term marriages. They concluded that older people often show more affection in their relationship than younger or middle-aged marriages. Although older couples have had conflicts in the past, affection and love emerged as the dominant emotions. However, unhappy marriages exist in all age categories. This research suggests that optimizing positive emotional experiences and minimizing negative experiences is the only way to achieve a happy marriage. Furthermore, it suggests that some couples have learned to remain neutral during arguments and disagreements, so they do not aim to change each other's opinions and beliefs. This behavior prevents the escalation of deeper emotional problems that could possibly endanger the marital factors that influence the quality of marital relationships, but most of the attention should be paid to individual issues. A marital relationship requires harmonious coexistence and requires commitment from both parties to maintain it. If a person has behavioral problems, it will not be possible to establish a functional relationship with that person. If both parties in a marriage have behavioral problems, one party will start fighting and the other will follow. This will increase negative emotions and leave a lasting mark on marital satisfaction. Unresolved issues in themselves have no influence in determining marital quality, but as long as people are willing to hold onto their negative emotions and deny affection and respect to their partner, marital conflict can become an ongoing process and degrade satisfaction marital for a long period of time..
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